Pg. 3 – Mother sings lullaby to child, but mentions that the father would also rock the child
Pg. 5 – Father, Abdul Bashir, gave the name Halima to his daughter after she has been born for seven days
Pg. 6 – Lineage of the family descended from many tribal chiefs of the Zaghawa tribe
Pg. 7 – While the mother rests for 40 days after giving birth, her mother helps out with the family. It is also tradition to name children after their grandparents.
Pg. 10 – Abdul was in his mid thirties when he married his wife, Sumah, who was 18. Abdul had to ask permission from her mother. Grandma Sumah was long-estranged from her husband. The three Zaghawa clans are: Towhir, Coube, and Bidayat. The Bashir family belongs to the Coube clan.
Pg. 11 – Grandma away from Grandpa because he took another wife in secrecy, which she did not agree with. When Grandpa came back, Abdul had to pay him a dowry for marrying his daughter.
Pg. 16 – Grandma was a daughter of a Chief and she was disrespected when he took a second wife, even though it was not condemned in the culture.
Pg. 17 – Grandma allowed Abdul to marry her daughter because he agreed to only have one wife.
Pg. 30 – All first born males are named “Mohammed”
Pg. 36 – If a husband died, the wife would marry his brother to keep the children in the same family
Pg. 42 – A second son was born and he was giving the Surname, Omer
Pg. 63 – Halima would be living with her father’s brother while at school
Pg. 97 – Uncle Ahmed, youngest brother of Abdul, treats Halima like a daughter
Pg. 114 – A baby girl, Asia, was born into the family
Pg. 177-121 – A wedding is taking place. The bride price is set, the groom gets shaved. The groom buys new clothes for the bride’s family and the bride’s family builds the new couple a house. Mother-in-law makes the groom his first meal as a married man.
Pg. 122 – Abdul gets an offer for Halima’s hand in marriage but he denies because she needs to continue her education.
Pg. 131 – Grandma’s husband and sons get killed in war
Pg. 192 – told of family lineage and found relatives in a new village where Halima is placed to work
Pg. 194 – Abakher is a relative of Halima and calls her daughter
Pg. 201 – Abakher has three wives and shares his time between them
Pg. 234 – Abdul arranges a marriage for Halima with cousin Sharif
Pg. 245 – Once Abdul died, Halima helped run her family with her mother
Pg. 246 – While discussing options of moving, Sumah, the mother, claimed that her father’s second wife lives in Chad and they could stay with them
Pg. 284 – Halima finds Sharif in London and lives with him along with other Zaghawa people
Pg .285 – Halima is pregnant with her first child
Pg. 289 – Halima and Sharif name their son Mohammed